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Rejection Wounds Have a Voice of Their Own

I’m not heard. I feel ignored. I’m not important. My needs go unnoticed. I feel alone. I feel empty. Nobody likes me…

These statements are hard to swallow but they represent the voices of rejection -- the wounds that ache inside the body. It speaks loud and clear through the mind and can feel as though it’s behind the scene taunting you. It shows up as blaming, shaming, critical, judgmental self-talk and is relentless to endure. As children, we had yet to develop a discerning ability to separate a sense of self-worth from the actions modeled by others. Therefore, inadvertently, converging the dysfunctional behavior of others with a sense of personal lack, which severely distorts the view of the self at a fundamental level. The experience fractures the connection to the foundation of self and uproots the possibilities of understanding who we are. It plants an unhealthy seed inside the psyche that says something’s intrinsically wrong with the self. We begin to believe, that love is not deserved but that also, there is no love to be given. Once that seed fully blooms, it obliterates the self and corrupts any experiences to follow. That severed connection or dis-connection makes it hard to believe that we are deserving of any goodness and makes it increasingly difficult to feel whole. I was in the beginning stages of a frozen shoulder when I went for a massage. The pain was so severe, it was hard to st